self-knowledge

The 5th Relationship Terminator – A LACK OF SELF KNOWLEDGE AND UNDERSTANDING

A lack of self-knowledge makes us vulnerable to making critical mistakes in our relationships out of ignorance. One of the most important things we need to understand about our relationships with others (inter-personal) is that they are very much an extension of our relationship with ourselves (intra-personal). It’s not just that the better we know and understand ourselves, the better we will understand others. But until we are able to fully accept, appreciate and love ourselves exactly as we are, we will not be able to accept, appreciate and love others for who they are because we simply haven’t figured out how to do that yet. We can only ever love another person to the same degree that we love ourselves.

“To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love.” ― Zen teacher Thích Nhất Hạnh

“Before we can make friends with anyone else, we must first make friends with ourselves. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Understanding what drives and motivates us in great detail, puts us more in control of our lives, empowering us to make healthy choices and decisions that serve us and shape our lives the way we want live. Any emotional wounds, insecurities, fears, guilt, shame or self loathing that we have avoided dealing with, becomes buried in our subconscious and forgotten about. These buried and forgotten parts of ourselves run our lives and disrupt our day to day reality, because any time we feel threatened they are triggered into activity, seeking our attention so that we can work on healing them.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” – Carl G. Jung

“We meet ourselves time and again in a thousand disguises on the paths of life.” – Carl G. Jung

The more (self) knowledge and wisdom we gain and apply to our lives, the less chaotic disruption we experience as the lessons baked into our day to day experiences become less and less extreme and urgent, but more and more complex testing the limits of our wisdom. Although an increase in (self) knowledge and wisdom does translate into deeper, more fulfilling and sustainable relationships, it does not mean that there will at any point be no more challenges. There will always be new horizons to explore within an enduring partnership, but as we grow these challenges offer ever greater fulfillment and satisfaction.

Graham is a leading authority on human behavior and modern relationships, and his insightful wisdom has helped countless couples to solve their challenges and revive their relationships. His refreshing perspective challenges society’s outdated beliefs and expectations about love and romantic partnership, and provides a detailed roadmap for building more fulfilling relationships. His compassion, dedication and integrity make him the ideal teacher and mentor for couples dealing with sensitive personal challenges.

Graham has invested more than four decades exploring personal and spiritual development. His natural curiosity and dedication to the pursuit of wisdom has given him a deep understanding of human behavior and relationships, human development and personal empowerment. He is a sought after teacher and mentor for those looking to repair or revitalize their romantic partnership, accelerate their individual growth or gain a more direct experience of their deeper (spiritual) nature. Graham’s studies have included psychology, philosophy, physiology and chemistry, and he has a keen interest in many areas of scientific research. He has also explored several mystic traditions and studied spiritual teachings from around the globe.

Graham and his wife Monika are co-founders of the Global Awakening Institute. They provide education and mentorship for those looking to master the art of building lasting love and truly resilient relationships.

Specialties: Human Behavior & Relationship Specialist, Personal Growth and Empowerment.

Special Interests: Personal Growth and Relationship Dynamics, Psycho-physics, Trans-personal Psychology, Spiritual Development and Evolution.

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